You Lost Your Job: What’s Next?

More than a few recently laid off executives expressed to me the sense of relief that accompanied their terminations. But that’s just one of an amalgam of feelings that often includes anger, disbelief and grief. Self-care is particularly important during this time, with many experts saying that a short, temporary "quiet period" helps replenish positive energy and calibrate focus.

The executives I spoke with identified two specific sources of their relief: no longer stressing over job insecurity, and a new opportunity to find their passion and reinvent themselves. Many executives have been in careers of default, starting as a young employee in a company and then moving up as skill sets and experience develops. Not many children dream about growing up to be the senior vice president of copper widget procurement so some executives find their layoff to be liberating.

A layoff can act as an intervention, prying us off an unfulfilling path and allowing time for introspection, self-exploration, and sometimes, a new direction. But all employment transitions are not equal; many have to recover from the pain quickly and find the next job.

Steps to get started:

Accept the loss and then move forward.

"You can’t allow yourself to mire. That is deadly," says Andy Borkin, president of Bridgewater, NJ-based Strategic Advancement Inc. "You’re just using up precious severance or unemployment pay. This is a full-time effort, to first get stability psychologically. If there is anger, you need to work through it because it can affect your search."

Make a plan.

Michael Jeans, president of Boston-based New Directions Inc., says he suggests that his clients take a step back and look at their careers from both a long-term and a holistic perspective. Ask yourself what you want your life to look like in five, 10 and 15 years. "Apply a strategy to what you want from your career," says Jeans. "The holistic dimension is not about the job or career, but how it fits into your life." It’s about regaining balance with everything you have in your life.

Don’t stop with your résumé.

"Building your brand goes way beyond your résumé," says Meg Montford, an executive career coach with Kansas City, Mo.-based Abilities Enhanced. "This process is something you should be doing throughout the life of your career." She suggests giving presentations to professional and industry groups, and writing white papers and blogs to establish yourself as an expert in your industry.

Notify your network.

Nicholas "Coach Nick" Papadopoulos, executive coach with New York City-based Sky’s The Limit Corp. suggests starting with a blast email to let your network know what's happening and then make calls every day to schedule meetings. "The majority of jobs are found through networking and the people you know," says Papadopoulos. "You have to be aggressive about leveraging your network."

CHANGE IN LIFE ....ITS SO TRUE !!

Here i am sitting in my office @ night?
Thinking hard about life
How it changed from a maverick collage life to strict professional life ?

How tiny pocket money changed to huge monthly paychecks
But then why it gives lesss happiness?

How a few local denim jeans changed to new branded wardrobe
But then why there are less people to use them

How a single plate of samosa changed to a full Pizza or burger
But then why there is less hunger?

Here i am sitting in my office @ night?
Thinking hard about life
How it changed..?

How a bike always in reserve changed to bike always on
But then why there are less places to go on ?

How a small coffee shop changed to cafe coffee day
But then why its feels like shop is far away?

How a limited prepaid card changed to postpaid package
But then why there are less calls & more messages?

Here i am sitting in my office @ night?
Thinking hard about life
How it changed?

How a general class journey changed to Flight journey
But then why there are less vacations for enjoyment?

How a old assembled desktop changed to new branded laptop
But then why there is less time to put it on?

How a small bunch of friends changed to office mate
But then why after 8'o Clock it always feel like getting late?

Here i am sitting in my office @ night?
Thinking hard about life
How it changed?.. how it changed?.